Stuck In A Toxic Relationship

& Not Sure What To Do?

Not sure whether to stay or to go?

Or perhaps can't leave because of

financial or other reasons?


Let me help you to make the right decision

or improve your current circumstances.

Does this sound familiar?

  • Are you constantly "on edge" when your partner is around because you're not sure what kind of a mood he will be in or when his mood will switch?
  • Are you struggling to keep a brave face and cope for the sake of your children, when deep down inside you are wounded and hurting?
  • Do you ever look at your partner and just wish he wasn't there?
  • Are you a smart, successful woman in other areas of your life, but feel small, insignificant and powerless in your relationship?
  • Have you read every relationship book out there and worked on your communication skills and still feel neglected and unheard?
  • Are you unsure of whether to stay or to leave?

When your once happy relationship turns into a nightmare, it can be a very lonely and scary experience.


Friends and family members may tell you to just leave. But they fail to understand that things are seldom that cut and dried.


Many women stay stuck in this situation for years, unsure of whether to stay or to go. You might find yourself in that very situation right now.


This is where I can help

As your coach, I can help to navigate this complex minefield of your relationship and figure out what the best decision is for you and your children.


Having been through this myself, I know that this is not an easy decision, nor is it one to be taken lightly.


There are far-reaching implications for both yourself and your children.


During the coaching process, I will help you to make the right decision for you and your children.


I will help you to:

  • Understand how and why you ended up in a toxic relationship...uncovering the childhood programming and thought patterns that got you into this relationship and that are keeping you stuck
  • Understand why your partner behaves the way he does
  • Weigh all the pros and cons, (logistical and financial) so that you can make an informed decision

Regardless of the decision you make, I'm here to support you every step of the way.

If you decide to stay, I will help you to:

  • Build up a solid support network so that you have the support you need
  • Re-establish strong boundaries
  • Re-negotiate the rules of your relationship with your partner
  • Start building other areas of your life so that you're not relying on your relationship alone for happiness and companionship

If you decide to leave, I will help you to:

  • Mentally and emotionally prepare to leave
  • Make a safe exit, especially if you feel that leaving may put you in danger
  • Start a new life on a solid footing
  • Start healing and re-building your new life
  • Build a strong support network so that you don't have to do it all alone

Why Me?

I've been through the pain, confusion and uncertainty that you're experiencing right now.


And so I get it on a level that very few coaches or therapists can understand unless they have been though it themselves.


And unlike many advisors who may tell you to just leave, I understand that many factors need to be taken into account when making such a big, life-changing decision.


I offer a safe, judgement-free space for you to make the right decision for you and your kids, and at the same time helping you to uncover the beauty and strength that is within you.

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Get Your Free

Relationship Clarity

Coaching Session

During this free 60-minute session, we will:

  • Create a crystal-clear vision of what your ideal relationship looks like
  • Uncover the hidden obstacles that are keeping you from the relationship and life that you want
  • Leave the session with clarity about the best way forward for you.
Book your free session now

Client Success Stories

Marie Louise, Cape Town, South Africa

Before I met Bernie, I had lost myself completely. Dreading to get up in the mornings to start my day and just longing to get back to bed as soon as possible. Drinking myself into an oblivion to not feel anything.

Bernie offered her life coaching services to help me get out of my rut and I was sceptical to say the least.

It was the best decision I could have made.

She helped me to get back to where I could feel comfortable being myself again, to focus on what I would like to achieve in life and work at it every day.

She taught me that companionship comes in many forms and helped me to identify them and appreciate them.

She reminded me to be grateful for how far I have come on my own in life and to always have an open heart and mind at all times because anything could happen at any time.

I would definitely recommend Bernie as a life coach to those who are in need of one.

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